The Lifestyle Lingo: Terms Every Newbie Should Know

Ever heard a couple say they’re “soft swap” or “in the lifestyle,” and felt totally lost? Don’t worry—we’ve all been there. Here’s your quick-start guide to essential swinger terms and acronyms.

Common Terms

• LS: Short for “Lifestyle” – the broad term for swingers & open-minded folks
• Soft Swap: Kissing, touching, oral—but no intercourse with others
• Full Swap: Open to all play, including intercourse with other partners
• Unicorn: A single woman open to playing with couples
• Voyeur/Exhibitionist: One who likes watching / being watched

Acronyms

• DDF: Drug and Disease Free
• MMF / MFM: Male-Male-Female / Male-Female-Male threesomes
• BBC / GFE / DP: More advanced acronyms you’ll hear in kinkier circles

Final Thoughts

Understanding the lingo builds confidence and helps avoid confusion. You don’t need to memorize it all—just start with the basics, and the rest will come naturally as you explore.